To Love – Learn How To Love Like Jesus Loves

Learn to love each other. The Holy Spirit makes it possible.

Revised: Monday, November 20, 2017

Agapao-to love

Picture of palm at llu and to love chart for the to love bible study
To Love – chart

Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God, and every one who loves is born of God, and knows God. 8 He who does not love does not know God; for God is love [1 John 4:7-8 (RKJNT)]. [Read 1 John 4:7-11]

Think about this

What does it mean “to love one another”? Is it possible to love every child of God? Jesus made it clear, as He said to His followers in John 13:34 I give you a new law: Have love one for another; even as I have had love for you, so are you to have love one for another (BBE).

Work on it, make it happen. Love each other. The Lord wants you to do it, it is not an option.

Key Points:

  1. The proof

    When we love and obey God, then we will love others. By this we know that we love God’s children — when we love God and carry out his commands [1 John 5:2 (OEB)].

  2. How to love

    To love others you must first love, your own self. His reply was — “‘ You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your strength, and with all your mind; and your neighbor as you love yourself’” [Luke 10:27 (OEB)].

  3. Defined

    When you love others you help them be at ease. It is to care; to love very much in a social or a good way.

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Love Each Other

Picture sunset at the lake of for the to love bible study 1 John 4:10-11
Real love isn’t our love for God, but his love for us. God sent his Son to be the sacrifice by which our sins are forgiven. 11 Dear friends, since God loved us this much, we must love each other.
To Love – 1 John 4:10-11 (CEV)

Dear friends, let us love one another, because love comes from God; and everyone who loves has received the new life from God and knows God. 8 The person who does not love has not learned to know God; for God is love.

9 The love of God was revealed to us by his sending his only Son into the world, so that we might find life through him. 10 His love is seen in this — not in our having loved God, but in his loving us and sending his Son to be an atoning sacrifice for our sins.

11 Dear friends, since God loved us in this way, we, surely, ought to love one another. 12 No human eyes have ever seen God, yet, if we love one another, God remains in union with us, and his love attains its perfection in us [1 John 4:7-12 (OEB)].

NOTE: to help identify each word (various forms of ‘love’, e.g., loves, loved, loving, etc.) in bold and blue in this lesson come from the Greek ἀγαπάω agapaō (ä-gä-pä’-ō).

Agapaō love

What kind of love is this? Jesus advised us to love our enemies with this love [Matthew 5:44; Luke 6:27, 35]. To love our neighbor with this love [Matthew 19:19; Mark 12:31; Luke 10:27 (key verses: 27-37); Galatians 5:14].

But he, desiring to put himself in the right, said to Jesus, And who is my neighbour? 36 Which of these three men, in your opinion, was neighbour to the man who came into the hands of thieves? 37 And he said, The one who had mercy on him. And Jesus said, Go and do the same. (BBE)

This love

To love the Lord thy God with this love [Matthew 22:37; Luke 10:27; 2 Thessalonians 2:16)]. Jesus also tells us to love each other with this love [John 13:31-35 {(34); reference 1 Thessalonians 4:9}; 1 Peter 1:22 and 2:17; 1 John 2:10; 2 John 1:5].

To married men, in addition to sexual/sensual/intimate love (ἔρως érōs), this is the love you should have for your wife [Ephesians 5:25-33 (28, 33); Colossians 3:19; Ecclesiastes 9:9].

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church, and gave himself up for her; 28 So husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 33 Nevertheless, let every one of you love his wife as himself; and let the wife see that she respects her husband [Ephesians 5:25, 28, 33 (RKJNT)].


Agapaō (verb), the root of agape, is used more than agape (noun), but is less known. So we begin our ‘LOVE’ series with agapaō; to love; beloved. I created a definition after careful review of the Scriptures, Greek lexicons1 and dictionaries1; agapaō simply means to love (in a friendly, non-sexual, intimate {in marriage man to woman; husband to wife}, or good sense); to love and be grateful to God (people of God).

G25 ἀγαπάω agapao (a-ğa-paō’) v. 1. to love (in a social or moral sense). 2. to show and be full of good-will. 3. to regard the welfare of.

  1. Christians for each other (including the unchurched and those considered enemies) – to welcome, to entertain, to be fond of; value, esteem, feel or manifest generous concern for.
  2. Husbands love for his wife – to treat her with affection, to caress, to love (ἔρως érōs) dearly; take pleasure and delight in (a short definition; coming this year ‘Love Beyond the Bedroom’; we will get into details at that time).
  3. God and His children – the active love of God for His children, and the active love we have for and faithfulness to God.


The main NT word for love, agapáœ, occurs 137 times as a verb and 116 times as a noun. Both noun and verb are usually translated “love” (in the AV 29 times as “charity”). Like its Hebrew equivalent it expresses desire, leading to quest (“they loved the praise of men,” John 12:43), or it may mean a discriminating choice, whether of the world (“Demas, in love with this present world,” 2 Timothy 4:10), of God (“You shall love the Lord your God,” Matthew 22:37), or of men (“Love your enemies,” 5:44). – International Standard Bible Encyclopedia (ISBE) via PC Study Bible

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Love Like Jesus Loves

Picture of lake cunningham, san jose, ca for the to love bible study John 13:34
A new commandment I give to you, That you love one another; as I have loved you, so you also love one another.
To Love – John 13:34 (RKJNT)

When Judas had gone out, Jesus said, “Now the Son of Man is glorified, and God is glorified in him. 32 If God is glorified in him, God will also glorify him in himself, and he will glorify him right away. 33 Children, I am still with you for a little while. You will look for me, and just as I said to the Jewish religious leaders, ‘Where I am going you cannot come,’ now I tell you the same.

34 “I give you a new commandment—to love one another. Just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another. 35 Everyone will know by this that you are my disciples—if you have love for one another” [John 13:31-35 (NET Bible)].

John 3:16 love

This kind of love is the John 3:16 love of God for people shown through His sacrifice. It is also shown through His correction.

[Hebrews 12:6; paired with the Hebrew H157 אָהַב אָהֵב ‘ahab (aw-hab’) (or raheb {aw-habe’}) v. 1. to have affection for (sexually or otherwise); 1 John 5:1-2]. “For God so loved the world, that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish, but have eternal life” [John 3:16 (WEB)].

This is the love Jesus had for Mary (Magdalene), Martha and Lazarus [John 11:1-16 (5)], for John (the disciple/apostle) [John 13:23] and for all of the followers/imitators of God (God’s chosen) Ephesians 5:1-2. If you have agapaō love you will obey the Lord and do what He says [John 14:15-18; Hebrews 1:9].

If you love me, you will keep my commandments. 16 And I will pray to the Father, and he shall give you another Comforter, that he may abide with you forever; 17 That is the Spirit of truth; whom the world cannot receive, because it does not see him, neither does it know him: but you know him; for he dwells with you, and shall be in you. 18 I will not leave you comfortless: I will come to you [John 14:15-18 (RKJNT)].

To love with discipline/correction

3 Sinful men spoke words of hate against Christ. He was willing to take such shame from sinners. Think of this so you will not get tired and give up. 4 In your fight against sin, you have not yet had to stand against sin with your blood. 5 Do you remember what God said to you when He called you His sons? “My son, listen when the Lord punishes you. Do not give up when He tells you what you must do.

6 The Lord punishes everyone He loves. He whips every son He receives.” 7 Do not give up when you are punished by God. Be willing to take it, knowing that God is teaching you as a son. Is there a father who does not punish his son sometimes? 8 If you are not punished as all sons are, it means that you are not a true son of God. You are not a part of His family and He is not your Father.

For your good

9 Remember that our fathers on earth punished us. We had respect for them. How much more should we obey our Father in heaven and live? 10 For a little while our fathers on earth punished us when they thought they should. But God punishes us for our good so we will be holy as He is holy. 11 There is no joy while we are being punished. It is hard to take, but later we can see that good came from it. And it gives us the peace of being right with God [Hebrews 12:3-11 (NLV)].

Learn how to love

My friend I urge you to learn how to love like Jesus loves. His love is true. Let us learn to love the Lord, others, and ourself!

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Picture of san Bernardino mountains for the to love bible study 1 John 5:2
This is [one] way we know that we love God’s [spiritually reborn] children: [It is] when we love God and obey what He commands us to do.
To Love – 1 John 5:2 (AUV)

In this way love is made complete in us, so that we may be without fear on the day of judging, because as he is, so are we in this world. 18 There is no fear in love: true love has no room for fear, because where fear is, there is pain; and he who is not free from fear is not complete in love. 19 We have the power of loving, because he first had love for us.

20 If a man says, I have love for God, and has hate for his brother, his words are false: for how is the man who has no love for his brother whom he has seen, able to have love for God whom he has not seen? 21 And this is the word which we have from him, that he who has love for God is to have the same love for his brother [1 John 4:17-21 (BBE)].

Agapaō is the kind of love mentioned in 1 John 2:15 “Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him.”

Finally, my brothers and sisters, I pray you have better knowledge of what it means to love agapaō style. Before you go: 1 John 3:17-18 “Suppose someone has enough to live [the world’s possessions/goods] and sees a brother or sister [fellow believer] in need, but does not help [closes off his heart/compassion from him].

Then God’s love is not living in that person [How does God’s love abide/remain in him?]. 18 My children [2:1], we should love people not only with words and talk [in word and tongue], but by our actions and true caring [or by showing true love through our actions; in deed and truth].” (EXB)

♦ 1 John 3:23 “And this is his commandment, That we should believe in the name of his Son Jesus Christ, and love one another, as he commanded us.” (RKJNT)

Learn to love others and the Lord with agapaō love, be blessed my friends— Tim.

Scriptures to read and study

1 John 4:7-21 [7-8, 11-12, 19-21 (11)]; John 13:31-35 [34-35; (34)]. Matthew 5:43-48 [43-46; (44); compare Luke 6:27-36 (27-28)]; John 3:1-21 (10-21). Matthew 19:16-22 [17-19; (19); compare Mark 12:28-34 {28-31; (31)}]; Hebrews 1:5-14 [8-9; (9)].

Matthew 22:34-40 (37); compare ; 1 Thessalonians 4:9-12 (9); 2 Thessalonians 2:13-17 (key verses: 13, 16); Hebrews 12:3-11 (6; compare Proverbs 3:11-12); James 2:1-13 [8-13; (8)]; 1 Peter 1:22-25 (22) and 2:13-17 (17).

Highly recommended-Luke 7:36-50 [38-50 (44-48)]; 1 John 3:10-23 [10-14, 18-23; (18)]. Luke 10:25-37; 1 John 4:7-21 (7-8, 10-11, 12, 19-21). Ephesians 5:22-33 (25, 28, and 33); 1 John 5:1-5 (1-2).

Related Bible studies & articles:

Lovingly Forgive Each Other || Bible Study Series of Love || Greek word studies || Definition of Eros Love in the Bible


Greek lexicons (Gl)/Greek dictionaries (Gd): Gl || Gl || Gl || Gl. Greek Word Study (Transliteration-Pronunciation Etymology & Grammar) Gd

Question for ‘To Love’: Have you learned to love like Jesus?

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5 thoughts on “To Love – Learn How To Love Like Jesus Loves

  1. To Love - sunset in Hayward, CA
    Help each other learn how to love others by showing them how to love. ?Jesus was the perfect example, He not only told us to love each other but He did it…

    Keep in mind one aspect of love is discipline (punishment) and correction. Oh, I know many will not like to hear this ? (not you because I know you like the truth)… #tolove Click/Tap pic 4 more. <<-- the link. Message in the picture: Let us help each other to love others and to do good. - Hebrews 10:24 (NLV) Verse for the day: Hebrews 10:22-24 And so let us come near to God with a true heart full of faith. Our hearts must be made clean from guilty feelings and our bodies washed with pure water. 23 Let us hold on to the hope we say we have and not be changed. We can trust God that He will do what He promised. 24 Let us help each other to love others and to do good. [New Life Version (NLV)] Go to this Bible study; click on/tap the picture or link. Monday, November 20, 2017 Improved to work better on your device ? ? ? G=0 F=7 P=3 I=0 T=0

  2. To Love - Proverbs Wisdom 7
    Friday, June 30, 2017
    Accept the Lord’s #discipline. It is done because He loves you! Trust Him to do what is right/best for you.

    Message in the picture:
    “The Lord disciplines you, so discipline your children – show true love – Proverbs Wisdom #7”

    Scriptures for the day:
    Proverbs 23:13-14 Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die.

    14 Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell.
    [King James Version (KJV)]

    Hebrews 12:6-10 For the Lord disciplines those He loves, and punishes every child He accepts.

    7 [For the suffering] you are enduring [is] for your discipline. God is dealing with you as He does with [His] children, for what child is not disciplined by his father?

    8 But if you do not receive [such] discipline, like all of us do, then you are illegitimate children and not true children.

    9 Furthermore, we had earthly fathers to discipline us and we respected them [for it]; should we not much rather submit to the Father of our spirits [i.e., God], so we can live [spiritually]?

    10 For our human fathers disciplined us for a short time as it seemed best to them; but God disciplines us for our [spiritual] good, so that we may share in His holiness.
    [An Understandable Version (AUV)]

    STM Proverbs Wisdom series – wisdom number 7
    #wisdom #proverbs

  3. @William Jackson, thank you for visiting the site and commenting. Yes, people can hurt us, but try finding comfort in knowing your suffering is similar to that of our Lord. He shows His love for us, but often we crush Him. Please stay encouraged and follow the Lord’s example and continue to show agapao love.

  4. I enjoy your words i read but its so hard
    When you show love and the same person crushes you.

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